and yet, parents still wonder “why?”

Underage drinking. Teenage pregnancies. High school drop outs. High abortion rates. These are just a FEW of the problems plaguing today’s youth. Why?….

BAD PARENTING!!!!!

Parents nowadays let their 12-17  year old daughters leave the house in tiny booty shorts, or a low cut shirt and push up bra. What the hell is wrong with parents!?!?!?!?!?!  If your child WANTS to dress like a little slut, it is your JOB as a PARENT to tell her NO!!!!!  You’re not supposed to give in just because she throws a tantrum or gives you the silent treatment! Once she’s an ADULT, then she can choose to dress however she wants, but if she’s still a MINOR, it’s your job as a parent to make sure she doesn’t become jailbait for some poor unsuspecting schmuck who believed her when she said that she was 18.  Do you really want to become a grandparent while your child is still in high school?

 

Movie ratings are there for a reason.  IMDb gives great parental guides that let you know exactly WHY a movie has the rating that it has. If a movie has a lot of nudity and sex scenes, why oh why, would you take your teenage child to watch it? Are you really that crappy of a parent that you’re okay with sitting next to your 13-15 year old child while someone is naked and panting and moaning on the screen or television?  What’s next? Renting a porn movie for ‘Family Movie Night’?

 

The legal drinking age is 21. This doesn’t mean that it’s “cool” to buy your kids alcohol and beer because “they’re going to do it anyway”. This is a stupid way of thinking.  Talk to your children and explain to them why they shouldn’t drink until they’re old enough to be responsible about it.  Underage drinking tends to lead to drinking and driving, which can ultimately lead to either murder or death. Is being a “cool” parent really worth it?

 

I know that conservatively dressed females can still get pregnant, and that senior citizens can drive while under the influence of alcohol.  I’m talking about parents who act like FRIENDS to their children, and then wonder “why” certain things happen to them.

 

There’s nothing wrong with saying “NO” to your kids…in fact, you’ll probably make them better people for it!

 

-p

No Regrets

So, I tell my husband that I’m starting a blog…his reply (in an incredulous tone), “Really?” 

Of course, I took offense to that! There’s a remote possibility that somewhere out there, there is somebody who might actually be entertained by my thoughts, ideas and experiences. Right? 

So if you’re out there and you’re reading this, by all means, feel free to share your thoughts about my blog with me. 

I’m not a writer (although I’ve often fantasized about writing my own novel). I’m just a regular female. A mom. A wife. An entrepreneur. I never finished college, but I’ve got enough accumulated hours to where I could get a decent paying job with benefits, but at the moment, I’m pursuing my own dreams; being my own boss. 

I’m a firm believer in “no regrets”. Please do not confuse this with the ridiculous “YOLO” phrase that’s being thrown around by today’s youth. lol. By “no regrets” I simply mean that one should not regret anything that they’ve done in their past, because it brought them to the exact point in their life that they’re living at this very moment. If your life isn’t in stellar shape right now, fret not, it will get better. 

Ah well, by now you may think that you’ve pegged me as an “optimist” but I can assure you that you’re very mistaken. I’m simply realistic. I’ve had many times in my life where I thought that my life would never get better, and each time I was incorrect. Therefore, I can tell you from experience..it WILL get better!!

So: you made a bad choice with a former lover, job, investment, or lifestyle and wish that you could go back and make a different choice. Guess what? You’re better off for making those choices. Look at them as learning experiences. 

I could easily say that I regret marrying my ex husband because he swindled all of our savings and used them to feed his cocaine addiction, but instead, I gained a LOT from that relationship. For one, I have my daughter as a result of that “regret”. Also, thanks to my relationship with him, I’m able to look at person and know when they’re lying, or using drugs. Not possible? Oh yes, it is. I’m a very good judge of character and my years spent around him taught me how to pinpoint and identify certain “tells”. This comes in handy whenever I meet a new acquaintance, or one of my children’s friends. Wouldn’t you like to know that your son’s best friends is using drugs, so that you could keep your child away from him or her? 

If I have a gut instinct that something is off about a person, I’m usually right to follow that feeling. So…trust your gut! You’ll save yourself a lot of headaches and heartaches that way.

I need to apologize if I’m not making much sense because I’m trying to write this while ‘Home Alone’ is playing on the tv, and my kids and husband keep coming up to me and asking me random questions. A few times during this post, I lost my train of thought and had to pick up where I THOUGHT that I was headed. lol. 

The life of a mother and wife….it’s chaotic, hectic, messy, expensive, and I wouldn’t have it any other way!!

 

 

I think that I’ve rambled on for long enough…

Until next time.

-p